Why is change so hard?

Many of us are very uncomfortable with change, and even when we are ready and want to, we find that it is very hard to do or stick with it. Our brains, as well as our bodies, get stuck in patterns that are very hard to break. Additionally, for many of us, change is a…

Distorsiones cognitivas.

Hace algunas semanas escribí sobre los pensamientos negativo y la increíble capacidad de nuestros cerebros de hablarnos en términos, aunque dañinos, cómodos o familiares. También les pedí cautela y no creer todo lo que su cerebro le dice. Lo que pasa es que tenemos una preferencia negativa inherente. Sí, resulta que por naturaleza pensamos más…

ENFJ, Blue, 2, but so much more…How about you?

As I was reading this month’s issue of the magazine Psychology Today, I came across a very interesting article on personality tests. It is very possible that personality tests are one of the most popular topics in psychology.  There is something powerful about being ‘described’, by a list of characteristics and traits, it is so…

The power to be you

One of the things I love the most about psychology is its scope of application. On the one hand, it studies and treats the maladaptive and pathological side of our experiences as human beings and on the other hand, it concerns itself with our potential to grow and our mental health in a positive way….

Procrastinación, año nuevo y otras ideas

A medida que el nuevo año se aproxima, muchos empezamos a reflexionar sobre nuestros logros y nuestras vidas en general. ¿Alcanzamos las metas que nos propusimos el comienzo del año? ¿Alcanzamos algunas de las metas que tenemos en general para nuestras vidas? Generalmente comenzamos el año con la mejor de las intensiones pero a medida…

Trauma (Part II)- PTSD

Last week I described trauma (more details here) and today I want to expand on that onto a specific kind of trauma PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). PTSD occurs when the individual has been directly exposed to or has witnessed a traumatic event (or events). These events can involve the death or others, threaten death…

Emotion coaching for parents

Last week I presented to you the therapy of John and Julie Gottman. Their research of more than 35 brought to light a lot more than an effective method to work with couples; it yielded a powerful insight into relationships of all kinds, including relationships with our children. The name is emotion coaching because the…

Entrenamiento emocional para padres

La semana pasada les presenté la terapia de John y Julie Gottman. Su investigación de más de 35 años trajo a la luz mucho más que un método para trabajar con parejas. También arrojo una percepción muy clara sobre las relaciones de todo tipo, incluyendo la relación que surge de la crianza de nuestros hijos….

Gottman Couples Therapy

How is your relationship? On a scale from 1-10, how happy are you in your relationship? Is there intimacy, misunderstandings, and fights? If these questions have made you think, and reflect, that is great, but before you move forward you should know what to look for. You should think about both the therapist and the…

Método Gottman para parejas

¿Cómo está su relación? En una escala del 1 al 10, cuán feliz es usted en su relación? Hay intimidad, discusiones, malentendidos frecuentes? Si estas preguntas le han hecho pensar, le propongo que considere terapia de pareja. Pero antes de empezar a buscar un terapeuta, es importante que sepa que escoger cual es la opción…

Family Rituals

Humans have an innate need for belonging and family is the first world to which we belong. First our relationship with our parents and our siblings determines, in many ways, who we turn out to be and how we interact with our spouse, our children and relatives. Challenges are inevitable…and necessary; overcoming them is a…